Using strap-ons in a relationship is exciting. They are the perfect way to fulfill fantasies and introduce some sizzle into your sex life. So, strap-in and get the lowdown on strap-ons.
Who Uses Strap-Ons?
Strap-ons are perfect for lesbian couples, allowing for penetration and unmatched intimacy. They’re also a great way for straight couples to accomplish double penetration as well as for pegging. In fact, pegging allows for internal stimulation of the prostate. Allowing men to experience some of the most mind-blowing orgasms imaginable. Strap-ons can also be a great tool for men experiencing erectile dysfunction or for men who want to perform for extended periods of time.
Choosing the Right Harness and Dildo
If you’re ready to add a strap-on to your bedroom treasure chest, you’ll want to choose the right harness and strap-on dildo. And, with such variety to choose from, you’re sure to find the perfect fit.
What Strap-On Should I Buy?
What you buy depends on whether you are a beginner or a strap-on pro. You’ll also want to determine exactly how you’ll be using your new toy. Prices of strap-ons can vary. Bargain hunters can satisfy their needs with cheaper options. While those looking to spend a little extra can indulge in some of our multi-piece sets.
One example of a good beginner strap-on is this Fetish Fantasy set. The jelly dildo is relatively easy to wield, narrower than most and is also the optimal length for pegging. Additionally, it makes a perfect strap-on for double penetration.
Another exceptional strap-on for straight sex, pegging and lesbian sex is the Fetish Fantasy Posable Partner. The flexible dildo can bend to any angle to stimulate both the g-spot and the prostate. It’s also perfect for achieving the exact angle for double penetration.
The Right Strap-On Fit
The right fit for your strap-on harness is extremely important for a natural and hands-free experience. Therefore, your harness should fit snugly and comfortably. As a result, your dildo won’t wiggle around or come loose. For the purpose of fit, strap-on harnesses are either one-size-fits-most or adjust to fit using clips or Velcro. Additionally, curvier users can find the perfect fit with curvy size harnesses.
Some strap-on styles fit around the waist with straps that rest under each cheek. Other configurations are thong-style or corset-style. Others aren’t harnesses at all, but are made like briefs instead!
Harness Fabrics of Strap-Ons
Strap-on harnesses come in a variety of fabrics. Some examples are elastic, leather, nylon and neoprene. Additionally, you can find harnesses in comfy, breathable spandex-lycra blend or luxurious velvet. As a result, you are bound to find a material that fits well and feels good on your body.
Extra Strap-On Thrills
How about a strap-on harnesses with that little something extra? This strap-on gives the wearer some additional enjoyment with a removable clitoral stimulator. Other styles include a dildo for the wearer so you both enjoy penetration.
The All-Important Dildo
Another important part of a strap-on is the dildo. Most strap-ons allow you to change dildos by using rings that fit any attachment with an extended base, while others attach with snaps. Some strap-ons have a unique plug system for a tight connection. Plus, strap-ons have a huge assortment of dildo styles to choose from. For example:
- Silicone: Comfortable, non-porous and hypoallergenic
- Real Skin, Cyber Skin, Pleasure Skin: A firm, realistic look and feel
- Rubber: Latex-free, eco-friendly and hypoallergenic
- Jelly: Crystal look and made of rubber
- Hollow dildos: For erectile dysfunction, beginners or long-lasting performance
- Vibrators: Battery operated vibrating dildos
- Multi-function Vibrators: Vibrate, pulse and accelerate
Using Strap-Ons: Beginners Tips
Before using your strap-on, here are some useful tips for beginners.
Foreplay with Strap-Ons
Nothing kills the mood like stopping foreplay to put on a harness. So, make your strap-on a part of foreplay. Simply help your partner get strapped in while kissing, stroking and fondling.
Lubricants Are a Must for Strap-Ons
A dry toy placed in any orifice is extremely uncomfortable and may even result in injuries. For that reason, it is imperative you use a lubricant with your strap-on. However, you can’t use just any lube as it could potentially damage your strap-on. Lubricants come in the following varieties:
- Water-Based: Safe for any type of strap-on toy, cleans up easily and won’t stain fabrics.
- Silicone-Based: Ideal for those with sensitive skin and lasts longer, so there’s no need to reapply frequently. It’s important to note that silicone-based lubricants CANNOT be used with silicone toys as the surface will deteriorate and break down. Notably, this will result in cracks that can hold in infection-causing bacteria.
- Oil–Based: Perfect for long-lasting pleasure. Oil-based lubricants require minimal application, are safe for most sex toys, and highly recommended for anal play and pegging.
Basic Strap-On Positions for Beginners
Moving on, it’s time to discuss the best positions for intercourse, pegging and double penetration.
The receiver is on their hand and knees with the giver kneeling behind them. To sum up, it’s the perfect sex position for pegging, vaginal intercourse and double penetration.
Riding the Pony
With the receiver on top, this position allows for more control in depth of penetration. Therefore, it’s perfect for pegging and for vaginal penetration. Turn yourself around and try the reverse-cowgirl or cowboy.
The Missionary Position
Easy and comfortable, the receiver lays on their back while the giver enters from between the legs. This is the optimal position for lesbian lovemaking as well as for double penetration and pegging.
It’s important to use a cleanser specifically for cleaning strap-ons and toys. Sex toy cleansers come in several forms including antibacterial foams, convenient sprays as well as cleansers made to protect toys constructed with a synthetic flesh–like material. For a real deep clean, you may even want to consider a home sanitizing unit, such as the Uvee, which uses ultraviolet light to kill 99% of germs.
A Final Word on Strap-Ons
As always, be sure to play safe and use condoms if you’re sharing a strap-on. Use lubricant liberally. Avoid using a strap-on for anal and vaginal insertion unless you clean it thoroughly between uses. Additionally, inspect your toys from time to time for any signs of wear and tear. But, most importantly, relax, explore and have fun!